For this week’s Friday Thoughts something that we would like to discuss is safety and belonging. Everyone in this world wants to be safe and belong. Your idea of safe and belonging can be expressed in many modalities. In today’s society, it has been normal for some to go to great lengths in order to be “safe” and “belong”. People associate safety and belonging with other people. While it may be beneficial to have an intentional community by your side we believe safety and belonging start with you. It starts with you appreciating yourself. Being able to sit with your feeling and emotions in solitude before going out and joining an intentional community is crucial.
The fact of the matter is that a lot of people don’t like “sitting” with themselves. Many refuse to be honest about their experiences in this physical plane so the first mechanism is to “block it out” and find communities where they can be accepted. The thing with this is that many do find communities that serve it’s purpose initially but over time they will get lonely. They won’t be lonely because they don’t have others in their circle. They will become lonely because no one in their circle truly knows them. The loneliest thing you can possibly experience is being in a room full of people you don’t connect with authentically.
We are not saying that communities are a disservice but before putting yourself in an intentional circle make sure you stand in your truth and are authentic. When you enter spaces with this mindset on authenticity it’s when you are able to create lasting and growing relationships in any community.
Lots of love,
Jasmine and Phrieda